PASSWORDS! To Share or Not To Share in a Relationship


Would you share passwords with someone you are in a relationship with?

Privacy amongst couples in a committed relationship is a heavily debated topic. When couples first meet they have a lot of private things that the other person doesn’t know. The longer a couple is together the more they share those private things. share passwordsA sticky area for some is to share passwords. This can mean sharing the password to your phone with your wife or husband, or it can be sharing the password to your social media accounts. To share or not to share is the question we ask in this relationship podcast episode

What say you? Please leave a comment; we would love to hear from you.

Hosted By Pastor Brian Wallace & Keonte McDonal


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4 replies added

  1. Emma Smith March 9, 2017 Reply

    My personal experience shows that sharing your password will strengthen your relationship and this mentality and practice is growing; after all if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone in marriage, shouldn’t you be able to trust them with your Gmail account password?

    • Pastor B Wallace March 25, 2017 Reply

      Emma, Thanks for sharing! I pray that this podcast and relationship resource can continue to be a blessing to you.

      Pastor B Wallace

  2. Ebony June 7, 2017 Reply

    I thought that this was a very interesting topic especially in this day and age of social media. It is very easy to get in a “situationship” with someone and start exchanging messages ( past flames or whoever). Social Media has provided this platform and makes it very easy. I was listening to Dave Willis and he was like he actually copies his wife on emails he sends ( I was like “that’s too much”… that’s intense)- but he had shared he had infidelity in his marriage ( he was unfaithful to his wife), so for him he needed to do this. I agree, I think if you don’t have anything to “hide” then you should have no problem sharing passwords. I do think this is something you can discuss with a spouse. I think it’s different if you are ” not married”- I would not share any passwords- but if my spouse asked me too- I would. I think accountability is key too, if you feel like social media is a temptation ( get off/ share your passwords). I just encountered a situation with someone married reaching out to me and I cut it off- it is my responsibility as a Christian woman to ” guard my heart” and not allow, support, or encourage this married man in any way to be unfaithful to his spouse or create a stumbling block for me.

  3. BJ June 15, 2017 Reply

    Although I have left one other comment before this, I normally do not leave comments, but this was interesting to me, so I wanted to share my thoughts. “What say you?” Well, Pastor Wallace and Mr. McDonald, before listening to the podcast, I already had my answer to this burning question; however, I wanted to listen to the entire podcast before leaving my comment. You should have seen my facial expressions as I was listening, it would have said a lot to the both of you. There is so much that can be said, but it will be too much to write. I have to say Pastor Wallace, I did not expect your initial response, but it was funny to me, because it was so real and you expressed how so many people feel about this particular topic. I do not believe that the question is to share passwords or not, the real question is: is there trust in that relationship or not? No matter what stage of the relationship you are in, whether dating (friendship), courting, or married, there needs to be some level of trust and it should be transparent. I’m a widow and for a years I did not want to be in a relationship, but now I feel differently (sometimes). Someday, I pray that I am blessed with a God-fearing man who will trust me with that part of him that is only for me, his heart, which is priceless and as his friend/girlfriend/fiancé/wife, I will protect that part of him with all that God has put in me. Passwords do not have anything on this type of trust. If I ever feel the need to question the person I am in a relationship with (dating, courting, or married) about checking passwords, social media accounts, or he has has to question me; then we need to take a step back, look at that realationship at whatever stage we are in and check our motives for being in that relationship. I also understand your comment about playing house Pastor Wallace and I agree, it could be dangerous, but probably for different reasons than you may believe it to be dangerous. Pastor Wallace, I also appreciate your closing comment about there not being secrets in a marriage. As a young widow there were hoops that I had to jump through to handle business of my husband, the loss itself already wasn’t easy, but to have go through those extra steps to prove that I was his wife did not make it any easier. So, thank you for saying what you did. Mr. McDonald, you made really good points in this podcast; you said, “everything that is going on with me is going on with her,” that was a good point. I also listened to the podcast about how getting out of your own way saved your marriage. I mean no disrespect in sharing this with you, so please forgive me in saying what I am about to say. Please cherish each day with your wife and children as if it were the last day and do this everyday. As it is said in the Bible, Matthew 24:36 “But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels, in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father” ( NIV). No one except for God could have predicted that I would be a widow at 25 years of age, I buried my husband 10 days before my 26th birthday and no one but God has kept especially when the pain was so unbearable. My husband use to say, do not let the sun go down while you are still upset, he would tell me this when I was upset. I am saying this to you, but I am heeding this myself for when God blesses me. May God bless the both of you Pastor Wallace and Mr. McDonald and your families. Although I need to catch up a little with the podcast, I always enjoy listening to each podcast. Thank you both for always putting it into perspective by sharing your personal experiences.

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